Traditional Marriage Doesn’t Work
I bet that title pissed some of you off. Please slow down and read the contents of this blog before judging. I just wanted to make sure I got you to this page so as to read my whole message. If you guys saw my twitter blow up this morning, yes I am mad, maybe more frustrated than mad but certainly all fired up. Love me or hate me one thing you guys know is that I am a passionate person. I have very strong opinions and fight feverishly to help people find their true selves and to have the courage to live life on their own, liberated terms. Trying to live up to the standards your folks or society have pressed upon you makes no one happy. Sadly some people leave this amazing planet having never gotten to know themselves, nor understanding that they had a purpose. Our purpose? it’s simple…. live the life you were given! Too simple for you? Ok let’s dig deeper.
I do not personally know you. I have no idea if you like the opera or football, travel by plane or care, being alone or in groups. So, how silly for me to TELL you that you SHOULD by a ticket to NY to see the opera this weekend and stay over night in a hotel by yourself. There would only be one reason I would do this. Because that would be what I would enjoy, not you. It is very presumptuous for me to tell you what to do being that I do not really know you. As a society we do this to “marriage”. A clear definition was written hundreds of years ago about what marriage is and should be. As a society we have evolved however the marriage definition has not. And we can see by the shocking numbers of marriages that end in divorce just how good this tradition is working.
It is my firm belief no one can tell anyone what will make them happy other than themselves. Wow that was a tongue twister. As a society we have been trained to ostracize “different”. Who defined “normal” and how it has managed to become so important to us still baffles me. I have some amazing articles in my site that I have compiled on the history of monogamy, Sex and relationships, etc. Very forth telling and intriguing. Most of the research only confirms my own theories. Not all, but most. I am by no means a nay sayer of monogamy. I simply do not believe it works for the majority of marriages. Just look at the facts. Divorce rates are ridiculous. Infidelity is on the rise. We have all fallen into the systematic process of date, marry, monogamy, too hard, too much work, divorce. This sucks! Marriage should be fun! It’s can and should be a lifetime of adventure with your soulmate. When true deep passionate trusting love exists… our natural non monogamous feelings can perfectly fit into a fabulous marriage. getting some “strange” is a natural desire. Of course we are told to fight any urge to be with someone other than your spouse after marriage. Your a better person for fighting and beating the urge. Says who? That is absurd! If you and your mate are solid and love one another completely with your hearts, why would adding spice and fun to that coupling damage? That’s the point… it wouldn’t. But you see, if we all figured this out, what oh what would the media have to show during sweeps week? Everyone likes to feel “ok” with their life. They may not be happy but when news stories about “adulterers, and cheaters” come across the tube people can get on their fake pedestals and smirk “oh I am better than them.” lol! Think again. More than likely you have cheating in your glass house marriage. The media uses negative words to portray a beautiful, honest loving lifestyle. I Never once heard Nightline ( view video here) use the words I just did. On the contrary, they told the story but were very strategic to insert “adultery” “infidelity” ” cheating” to describe what this loving couple was “participating” in. What a joke. They completely missed the point of “swinging” and made it into what the “normal” sec of society WANTS the Lifestyle to be. I think Monogamy can work for some. Few, but some. It can be beautiful, just as open marriages can be. Judge not, figure out your own way, and then start living that way.
Peace!
xxx
Brandi
